Monday, April 20, 2015

Women Are Scary by Melanie Dale

Woman are Scary - The totally awkward adventure of finding mom friends

Women are Scary is about how to make friends as a mom.  Melanie Dale shows the stages of female friendship ("bases"), with tips on when and how to move onto the next "base".  She shares stories along the way that are relatable and usually hilarious to illustrate her points.  She is honest about how sometimes relationships fizzle out in first or second-base, and how a third or fourth-base relationship break can be painful and heart-breaking.  Included are tips on how to survive a break-up, heal from the past, and try again.  Bible verses are sprinkled throughout to back-up her perspective, and movie quotes kick-off each chapter.

I loved this book.  I read it in 2 days, and laughed out loud at least once per chapter, and sometimes multiple times a page. I could totally relate to her weirdness and sense of humor, as well as her oversharing tendencies, infertility struggles, and desire to save the world, one orphan at a time.  I appreciated her honest struggles in making friends, the great tips for how to meet moms and how to recover from failures.  More than anything, I was thankful for the laughs, and felt like she and I could be fourth-basers, if we only lived in the same area.  I began to think of the women in my life, and what base we are on, and which ones I might be able to take to the next level, and which ones I might just need to let die a natural death.  I thought about which friendships we could make couple friendships with, or at least give it a shot.

I recommend this book to any mom who has trouble with friendships or needs a good laugh.  I'm pretty sure that if you are a mom that you would fit into at least one of those categories, so check it out!

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Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Wednesday with Words: Idylls, Continued

I began my quotations from Tennyson's Idylls of the King here, so now I am up to Geraint and Enid.  Oddly, I highlighted nothing from that Idyll.  Balin and Balan is up next with this one quote, rather grim foreshadowing, in my opinion.  There wasn't much joy in this section at all, really.
Then turning to her Squire 'This fire of Heaven,
This old sun-worship, boy, will rise again,
And beat the cross to earth, and break the King
And all his Table.'

Merlin and Vivien was a maddening story, truly.  I wanted to scream at them both!  But here you go...
'They place their pride in Lancelot and the Queen.
So passionate for an utter purity
Beyond the limit of their bond, are these,
For Arthur bound them not to singleness.
 Brave hearts and clean! and yet--God guide
"Is that the Lancelot? goodly--ay, but gaunt:
Courteous--amends for gauntess--takes her hand--
That glance of theirs, but for the street, had been
A clinging kiss--how hand lingers in hand!
Let go at last!--they ride away--to hawk
For waterfowl. Royal game is mine." 
Dun, dun, DUN!!  Then, Merlin, in his "relationship" with Vivien, which led to his demise.
thus he grew
Tolerant of what he half disdained,
(By the way, each paragraph break means a totally separate quote.  I need to figure out how to put them in quote boxes to make it clear there is a lot of story between each.)
And Vivien ever sought to work the charm
Upon the great Enchanter of the Time,
As fancying that her glory would be great
According to his greatness whom she quenched.
I think ye hardly know the tender rhyme
Of "rust me not at all or all in all"
What did the wanton say?
"Not mount as high;" we scarce can sink as low:
For men at most differ as Heaven and earth,
But women, worst and best, as Heaven and Hell.
Not me, of course. (I'm level-headed and perfect. Haha!) But those other women out there.  Then spake Merlin:
Yea, they would pare the mountain to the plain,
To leave an equal baseness; and in this
Are harlots like the crowd, that if they find
Some stain or blemish in a name of note,
Not grieving that their greatest are so small,
Inflate themselves with some insane delight,
And judge all nature from her feet of clay,
Without the will to lift their eyes, and see
Her godlike head crowned with spiritual fire,
And touching other worlds. I am weary of her.'
 Weary of her he may have been, but he didn't run away screaming like he ought to have done!
Luna(r) moth, 2008.
(Posting because it was mentioned in Then They Were Five, which we just finished reading.)

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Keeping Company: some more Stepping Heavenward

I am not in the mood for keeping company, LOL!  It has been rough getting our groove back after several days off for "spring break" while simultaneously pursuing therapies and diagnoses.  Then at my son's well-check today, he passed out after booster shots.  Argh!!!  But, anyhow, I committed to 30 days of blogging and missed yesterday due to my mind being in this funk, but maybe I can write my way back out of it...

I think going back to Stepping Heavenward (by Elizabeth Prentiss) is what I need. (Again here.) She knows about heartache and struggles, yet never gave up her faith, while questioning what that even means.  Without further ado, some quotes from chapter 6.
"If I give myself entirely away to Him and lose all ownership in myself, He may deny me many things I greatly desire.  He may make my life hard and wearisome, depriving me of all that now makes it agreeable." But, I reply, this is no matter of parley and discussion; it is not optional with God's children whether they will pay Him a part of the price they owe Him and keep back the rest.  He asks, and He has a right to ask, for all you have and all you are.  And if you shrink from what is involved in such a surrender, you should fly to Him at once and never rest till He has conquered this secret disinclination to give to Him as freely and as fully as He has given to you.
There is much more of this passage that I love, but to avoid copyright trouble, you'll just have to buy it and read the rest yourself. :)
If you find, in the course of daily events, that your self-consecration was not perfect - that is, that your will revolts at His will - do not be discouraged, but fly to your Savior, and stay in His presence till you obtain the spirit in which He cried in His hour of anguish... 
There is one thing I can do, and that is to pray that Jesus would do for me what He did for the blind man - put His hands yet again upon my eyes and make me to see clearly.  And I will.
The story of that blind man is from Mark chapter 8 - which we just read for school yesterday.  Love connections like that!